Archangel Michael's Monthly Message
MESSAGES FROM ARCHANGEL MICHAEL * LM-4-2011
TRANSMITTED THROUGH RONNA HERMAN
THE FAST TRACK TO SELF-MASTERY
My beloved champions of Light, it is not a time for the faint-hearted, and it is time to stop dabbling in Spirituality. Many of you have been half-hearted in you endeavors to awaken to the wisdom of the Soul and your Higher Self. It is time to set your heart afire with an intense desire to claim Self-mastery and become a Soul-Seeker instead of a pleasure-seeker. The secrets of how to traverse the dramatic changes and the chaos of transformation are constantly being revealed to you. However, you must make the effort and actively strive to incorporate the fail-safe methods available to you if you are to successfully ride the crest of the waves of change during the turbulent years ahead. It is a time of LETTING GO OF THE OLD - MAKING WAY FOR THE NEW. An upgrading and refinement of every facet / Spark of God-consciousness, as well as of every dimension, is gaining momentum as the rarified Light of the Supreme Creator beams forth to the very edge of manifested creation within this Sub-universe.
It is time for you and other Light workers to understand where you fit into this great cosmic event of expansion and evolution. Now is the time you have been preparing for in this and many past lifetimes. You, the faithful ones, who are striving to attain Self-mastery so that you may become World Servers of the Light, are needed now more than ever. It is now the time to declare, "I will strive to become a BOLD BEARER of LIGHT so that I may magnetize to me and radiate from me the maximum amount of Creator Light out into the world and to all humanity."
In doing so, you will create a column of harmonious, higher-dimensional Light frequencies of safety around yourself, your home and your loved ones. As you gain the ability to magnetize to you greater and greater amounts of Divine Light substance, your sphere of influence will grow and spread to embrace an ever-expanding area. Eventually, your Light will join with the frequency patterns of your spiritual brothers and sisters who are also committed to becoming Bearers of Light. There are many of you who have already achieved this God-given ability and you are making a difference.
Unrest and turmoil are rampant on your planet, and as you are aware, it is accelerating so that no country or race of people is immune. We sense your concern and rightly so, for it is a critical time for the Earth, humankind and all living things residing on the planet. Therefore, once again, allow me to remind you of what is and what is not appropriate for you as a Self-master of cocreation. We know it is your greatest heart's desire to assist those who are suffering and in distress, and this is as it should be. There are those whose mission it is to be directly involved, whether it is defending, nurturing, healing or helping to relieve the misery of those displaced or in need. There are those who will be called into the midst of the turmoil, and there are those who must make critical decisions as to what is the best course of action to take in various situations and dramas that are being played out on an ongoing basis. Others will give support by sharing their wealth, and that too is appropriate. However, the majority of you, especially those of you who have claimed the frequencies of the higher dimensions as your reality, are somewhat removed from these stressful dramas. Therefore, it is more important than ever that you stay heart-centered and Soul-focused so that you can spread the maximum amount of Light, hope and harmony from your SOLAR POWER CENTER outward into the chaotic astral planes of consciousness and down into the heart core of your mother Earth. You, the Star Seed, are capable of assisting the Earth to release herself from a prison of negativity as she strives to Lighten her load and harmonize her auric field in order to claim her new designated position within the solar system.
Thanks to you, the brave Souls who are called the wayshowers or the vanguard of Light workers, the golden path has been clearly created and defined. You are also in the process of opening the lines of communication between us so that we may convey to you all the information you will need to quickly move through the process of ascension into the next level of consciousness. By doing so, you will leave behind and will not be affected by the drastic changes, negativity and chaos of the lower, imbalanced dimensions from which the masses are now struggling to emerge. The time has come when each of you is being asked to bring forth and share your own particular wisdom garnered from your vast experiences on Earth, and to also tap into the jewels of wisdom stored within your Sacred Mind, which you brought with you from the far reaches of the universe.
Those of you who have faithfully followed our teachings are being offered what we might call a fast track to Self-mastery. Our beloved messenger, Ronna Herman, graciously agreed to assume the task of bringing forth and making available to you the appropriate, expanded universal wisdom teachings, which were originally reserved for only the most advanced initiates in the retreats and secret wisdom schools. All of you are in the midst of an initiation process--at one stage or another. It is a school of learning and initiation that is taking place each and every day while you go about your daily tasks and meet your daily challenges. All that has been hidden in the past is now being brought into the Light of awareness, either to be corrected, eliminated or, in some cases, magnified.
It is also time for those of you who are firmly on the path to begin to build a more intimate relationship with your guardians and angelic teachers of the higher realms. The many facets of your Higher Self are waiting for you to integrate these advanced teachings, along with the higher frequencies of Light that are now available to you. Telepathic communication with the Beings of Light from the higher realms is a part of your original physical, sensory gifts. It is time to reclaim those talents and gifts, beloveds. We ask you to study and meditate on the advanced wisdom teachings we are offering to those of you firmly on the Path until they are engraved upon your mind and become a part of your higher consciousness. The wondrous gifts and abilities you have awaiting you far outweigh the effort you will put forth to attain them.
More and more precious Souls are just stepping onto the path of awareness as they begin to heed the nudgings of their Soul-self. Often, this initiates an intensedark night of the Soul process as they face the distortions in consciousness they have created, and the full measure of the Law of the Circle, or Karma, is brought to bear. As you are aware, it is not a punishment even though it may seem so in the beginning. It is an opportunity for each person to turn and bravely face him/her Self and to rectify and harmonize the discordant frequency patterns he/she has created.
Higher and more refined frequencies are constantly bombarding you and the Earth. As a result, many of you are in the midst of the emotional intensity and distortions of the astral plane, which consists of the seven sub-planes of the fourth dimension. These are emotional planes of consciousness which must be brought under control and returned to an accepted level of polarity. These are some of the most difficult tasks you will ever experience while on your journey of ascension into the fifth dimension of balance and tranquility. It is a time of clearing the deep, residual core energy patterns that you must release in order to accommodate the higher frequencies of Light.
Know this, beloveds, it is a golden opportunity for you to release, once and for all, those impacted energies that you have carried with you as excess baggage for many thousands of years. Face them, process them and see them transmuted into pure Light substance, and in the process you will feel LIGHTER AND BRIGHTER, as you traverse the pathway to higher consciousness into the realms of wondrous possibilities.
There is a plethora of information available to you on every facet of spiritual awareness and advancement as the brave ones ahead of you are able to access the higher and more refined levels of the great Halls of Wisdom and also receive advanced teachings from the Beings of Light. Much of the information brought forth is helpful and love-filled, but some of it is confusing and distorted. Therefore, we ask you to use your discernment as to what you accept as your truth. Some of the information stretches the imagination, and you wonder how you will ever attain the multiple levels of consciousness which are described. After being shut off from your Source for so long, you are eager and desirous of knowing all there is to know so that you may attain the heights of illumination as quickly as possible. However, please remember, my precious friends, you must make the journey one step at a time, learning each lesson fully as you release that which no longer serves you. You will then be led through the next open door of glowing radiance, and you will be offered ever-expanding levels of God-consciousness. It is a never-ending journey. There will always be new tests, new opportunities and amazing new adventures to experience.
These are most critical times for the Earth and humanity as all that no longer serves the highest good is gradually being eliminated or transformed. You are building / reconnecting with the Rainbow Bridge which will lead to a bright new future for you and your Earth, as well as this solar system and galaxy. It is up to each of you as to how easy or difficult the journey will be. Dear hearts, please keep in mind, that your success is assured; however, it is your choice as to how long you will take to reach the next destination.
We know it is easier to rise above a disaster or negative situation when it is occurring half-way around the world. But it is not so easy when it is in your homeland, your neighborhood or when it personally affects you, your family and your home. Then come the true tests of mastership. Can you stay centered within your Sacred Heart and trust in your friends from the higher realms to assist you through the dark nights of chaos into the sunlight of a bright, new future, no matter what happens to you or around you?
Many are asking. "What can we do to help?" First, become an example and radiate your Light for all to see and bask in. Join in group meditations and also spend as much time as possible in the celestial World Pyramid in the fifth dimension, adding your unique energies and your Love/Light to be used for the greatest good. Strive to draw forth the maximum cosmic Light substance to you, as you become anchors for the Adamantine Particles of Divine Light in the area where you live. Envision great crystal pyramids of Light being formed in the fifth dimension by the many groups of Light workers, where you all join together in your meditations with the intention of building the greatest cosmic Light waves possible. These waves, designed for the highest good of all, will sweep across each country as times goes by, awakening the masses--cleansing and clearing the negative energies that have a stranglehold on each country and its people. Know that each country and race is unique, for they were created with distinct attributes, desires, opportunities and challenges. Each of you has been strategically placed in the area where you can be of the greatest service and do the most good. You have vibrational Seed Crystals within your brain/Soul structure which will assist you, your country and your country- men/-women to access the Light of Truth, Wisdom and Protection.
My beloved warriors of Light, we are asking you to not close down your heart centers. Do not move into fear and a sense of hopelessness. There are great happenings taking place on Earth and in the higher realms that are beyond your understanding. Remember how often we have told you, "out of chaos, new creation emerges?" We do not ask you to minimize the monumental tragedy that has just taken place or the suffering which will be experienced by many. But it serves no one if you get caught up in the negativity, fear and pandemonium of the third-/fourth-dimensional illusion. Do not allow your powerful thought forms and energy to move into lower vibrational patterns which add more negative energy to the cloud of darkness. Instead, send your powerful Love/Light winging its way into the midst of the chaos and into the hearts of those who spread chaos, and then watch as slowly the darkness is overcome by the Light.
We promise to lift and support you with our loving energy and to assist you through even the darkest of times. The Light and Love of all Creation, along with your bold, steadfast endeavors will prevail. I am forever your loving friend and protector. I AM Archangel Michael.
Transmitted through Ronna Herman * As transmitter of this article I, Ronna Herman, claim the universal copyright in the name of Archangel Michael. Posting on websites is permitted as long as the information is not altered, excerpted or added to, and credit of authorship and my Email and website address is included. It may be published in journals, magazines or public print with permission from : E-mail:RonnaStar@earthlink.net
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"LOVE YE ONE ANOTHER AS i HAVE LOVED YOU"
"Love Ye One Another as I have Loved Ye Also" COTC Online News
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“Love Ye One Another as I have Loved Ye Also.” A pronouncement, understanding and example exemplified through our Beloved Brother, Christ Jesus.
"Church Of The Creator® shall provide the vehicle .... that place within, where each may have the opportunity to express the Perfect Principle of Love - that retribution of such will be the instrument and tool to see manifest Heaven on Earth.
Church Of The Creator® shall function through all its parts, its members, each supportive of the Whole, all portraying through their Golden Example and Sacred Mandate, The Living Word Made Flesh."
These three concepts, easy to understand, embrace, are quoted excerpts from the COTC Ecclesia Magna Charta: Proclamation, Purpose and Function.
COTC in concept and conceptualization is simple without restrictions or dogma. Simple to understand, an opportunity to co-create through conscious action, application, exercise of the heart function in every thought, word, deed, manifesting Unconditional Love.
Once we have “mastered” the discipline that brings us to the NOW, our individual I AM, “clearing,” "ascension" complete….then what do we do with it? Live within the Collective MessiahShip.
"I tell you the truth, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven."
"Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them." [Matthew 18:18-20]
"In that we recognize this Whole Planet Earth to be the Father's Church and that each Christed Being is in themselves a complete Temple, a Home, a Tabernacle made unto the likeness of The Creator, a House of God, so therefore in coming together to move in like-mind each representative then becomes an individual living brick, a stone, in Church Of The Creator.® Each one adds their part by expanding and living through the Redemptive Body of the Christ Son, and progresses daily in the bringing forth into outer manifestation the Spiritual Gifts of Shekinah, Sacred Sciences, through the Feminine Principle and Priesthood. This is the Daughter's offering in regenesis to the Whole, through service and within the Divine Blueprint of the Father's Plan, the Descending/Ascending Vehicle of Mankind - the Family."
Earthquakes in consciousness, geophysical and socio-political, change taking place on the planet now are no longer “for those with the eyes to see and ears to hear”. These changes are trumpeting their beacon and call to the collective consciousness of humanity to awaken, let go of the old no longer of service, move to the collective heart, be compassion for longer than one catastrophe, upheaval, until the next hits.
Change. Transfiguration. From chaos will come a higher order of things, New Heavens, New Earth, New Programs of Adonai Tsebayoth .
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Thursday, March 10, 2011
NEVER GIVE UP ON LOVE
NEVER GIVE UP ON LOVE
BY DR. MONA LOVE
A s Valentine’s Day is upon us, whether you find yourself with that special someone or, if you’re without that special valentine to call your own, I want you to do one thing, “Never Give up on Love”. Terry McMillan helped people all around the world understand that there are sisters still out here waiting to exhale. Since you know I'm not going to front, I can honestly say I'm one of those sisters. What, “Waiting to Exhale” means to me is, I am waiting to be with that special partner that accentuates my desire to be in a loving and committed relationship and I do the same for him.
If you’re riding the tailwind of coming out of a bad relationship, divorce or, some other type of situation that negatively impacted you, I think there is that desire to compensate for that hurt and pain. I know in my case it was like that, and sometimes we are very unaware of it. When we’re unaware that we need the space to heal or we don’t acknowledge our need to heal we’re definitely headed for trouble.
Sometimes making mistakes is just the thing we need to help us realize we need to wake up and rediscover our dynamic feminine principle. We need to bury the 1feminine mystique that still functions within our consciousness and society, to suppress the liberation of feelings and emotions we need to express. The suppression of our feeling and emotions causes us to fall back into what is perceived as acceptable ways for us to perform and behave, ways that keep us enslaved to a quasi-feminine mystique.
Sometimes in an effort for us to try to heal our pain we rush into another relationship or sometimes into another brother’s bed and what we need to realized about this method is that it doesn’t work!!! How can we be uninformed or lacking good sense for trying to recover fragmented pieces of ourselves? Just know we’re not sense-less, it’s just the method we feel compelled to use that is. A brother will never help us recover the pieces of our fragmented self, that’s something we can’t place in the hands of another human being. We got to take our time and just say No! Say no to engaging in any type of sexual activities with another person to soon, and definitely say no to any man that treats us less than the way we feel we deserve to be treated.
The sexual activities part can work both ways. It could be great sex but the woman could get lost in the greatness and not really understand who she’s in the relationship with, until it’s too late. If it’s bad sex then we definitely know this is a one night stand but, either way the matter is very complex sometimes things go all kind of ways.
There is an innate mental construct that functions deep within us as women, that causes us to feel like we “Have to be in a relationship”, and that we “Have to surrender sexually to a dominate male”. The chain of this cycle needs to be broken. There are plenty of men out here that are making perfectly good use of this fact, in an attempt to sleep with us, that’s just a fact! We have that same desire to give of ourselves sexually to recover, to connect and, to obtain some type of relationship. We as women have to turn this around if we really want to attract that loving and committed man into our life.
Desperation usually leads to isolation and/or, alienation. Desperation means you lost hope, at least for the meantime and we should never lose hope that we will find a loving and committed relationship and we should definitely, “Never give up on love.” Love comes to those who expect for it to come! We have a right to ask the Universe for love and we also have that same right to get it. We are taught that it’s not ok to ask for love and we don’t even think about doing something like that but, asking for love is only an indication that we’re ready for it and possess it within ourselves. Instead we suppress it and never acknowledge it, so guess what it never comes. I strongly recommend you get Deepak Chopra’s audio book or book “The Path to love” if you go to http://deepakchopra.wwwhubs.com/chopra6.htm you can read an online excerpt from this dynamically spiritual book that will lay the ground work for recovering the fragments of self. It will get you on the road to healing you, and finding true love.
I think another key, is to understand ourselves and what it is we really want in a mate. Women and men alike are confused on this matter we think we know but, when we get out there and interact we demonstrate, we don’t really know at all. We send mixed messages and, often times this un-decidedness is wrapped in the denial that we don’t have a right to ask for love or it's not necessary to ask for love. If you feel you don’t have a right to ask for love then you’ll never get it. So, this causes us to act in confusing ways because in one dimension we desire love and in the other we reject the need. I think a useful tool that can help us identify our “Love Language” and understand how we communicate love is a book by Gary Chapman, entitled the “The Five Love Languages” or, you can go to:
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/ and learn more about Gary’s work and learn the 5 languages. You take the free online assessment to find out your “Love Language”, by scrolling down to the bottom of the page and clicking take assessment tab. This will help you identify the way you communicate and receive love.
So here is a rundown of 5 keys to inviting love in your life
1. Give yourself the Space to Heal After a Break-up, Divorce or, Bad Love Relationship. Remember healing is a process and you'll need all the support and nurturing you can get. Take the time to love YOU. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people
Give yourself the time to come to terms with what happened and assess what it is you really need in a loving relationship. Write it down on paper. Identify with what makes you feel good about being in a relationship. By tapping into positive energy you can begin to heal all those negative feelings.
2. Take things slow
Don’t be in a rush and definitely don’t jump into anyone’s bed too quickly. Take your time to find out if the two of you have anything in common. By making sure that the two of you share common ground is a wonderful way to start a loving committed relationship. Give it a minimum of 3 months before you get intimate. Allow for the chase and most importantly have fun together. Take the time to really get to know each other.
3. Ask For Love
By asking the Universe for love shows that you are ready for it and possess it. Asking for love is one of the naturalist and best things to do in order to get it. Love is here to help us all heal and loving relationships are no different they have the same effect they always help you heal on some kind of level. When you ask for love you get it!
4. Clear up the Confusion
Women and men alike get confused about what it is the really are looking for in a loving relationship. A lot of times we think we really, really know what it is we are looking for in a partner and trying to figure it out in action can be rough. Don’t put another person or yourself through the drama. Take the time to understand and know what it is you desire in a mate and then be open to finding it. This is where I find Dr. Gary Chapman’s work useful it really helps you understand and know your personal love language and we all have one. Knowing what you need is key and we all have very different needs.
5. Learn From Past Mistakes
The most important thing that any of us can do is learn from our mistakes what I find is that we keep on making the same old relationship mistakes again and again. And they always keep coming back dressed in different disguises but, it’s always the same dynamic. By following your heart and not your mind you can’t go wrong. A lot of our inability to learn, grow and, move on has to do with our not operating in new paradigms. Our Models for love growing up did not give us good examples and in order to truly forgive others short comings it requires love in operation. We have a hard time forgiving self-let alone others. We have to redefine love, operate in new behavioral paradigms and learn from our mistakes in order to move forward.
It is real, real nice to exhale it’s nothing short of miraculous and if I can exhale so can all women and, I bet we have some men too for that matter. I’m doing things by a whole new set of standards. I follow my heart and look for those qualities I really desire in a man and I gravitate towards them irrespective of all other qualities. I’m breathing now and have never felt more alive.
Notes
1.The unfulfilled feeling felt by educated housewives, specifically referencing the 50s and 60s, wherein the housewife lost her identity and sense of self to a life centered around a husband, children, and home maintenance and little else. It was a trap felt by American women who were afraid to address the problem for fear of being perceived as "unfeminine" for not having orgasms mopping the kitchen floor
Contributions:
IsaiahJ & MS gave me a male perspective on the love and dating Scene
Links:
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_definition_of_feminine_mystique#ixzz1Dw5Daaoq to http://deepakchopra.wwwhubs.com/chopra6.htm
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/
Written by Dr. Mona Love January 7th 2011
BY DR. MONA LOVE
A s Valentine’s Day is upon us, whether you find yourself with that special someone or, if you’re without that special valentine to call your own, I want you to do one thing, “Never Give up on Love”. Terry McMillan helped people all around the world understand that there are sisters still out here waiting to exhale. Since you know I'm not going to front, I can honestly say I'm one of those sisters. What, “Waiting to Exhale” means to me is, I am waiting to be with that special partner that accentuates my desire to be in a loving and committed relationship and I do the same for him.
If you’re riding the tailwind of coming out of a bad relationship, divorce or, some other type of situation that negatively impacted you, I think there is that desire to compensate for that hurt and pain. I know in my case it was like that, and sometimes we are very unaware of it. When we’re unaware that we need the space to heal or we don’t acknowledge our need to heal we’re definitely headed for trouble.
Sometimes making mistakes is just the thing we need to help us realize we need to wake up and rediscover our dynamic feminine principle. We need to bury the 1feminine mystique that still functions within our consciousness and society, to suppress the liberation of feelings and emotions we need to express. The suppression of our feeling and emotions causes us to fall back into what is perceived as acceptable ways for us to perform and behave, ways that keep us enslaved to a quasi-feminine mystique.
Sometimes in an effort for us to try to heal our pain we rush into another relationship or sometimes into another brother’s bed and what we need to realized about this method is that it doesn’t work!!! How can we be uninformed or lacking good sense for trying to recover fragmented pieces of ourselves? Just know we’re not sense-less, it’s just the method we feel compelled to use that is. A brother will never help us recover the pieces of our fragmented self, that’s something we can’t place in the hands of another human being. We got to take our time and just say No! Say no to engaging in any type of sexual activities with another person to soon, and definitely say no to any man that treats us less than the way we feel we deserve to be treated.
The sexual activities part can work both ways. It could be great sex but the woman could get lost in the greatness and not really understand who she’s in the relationship with, until it’s too late. If it’s bad sex then we definitely know this is a one night stand but, either way the matter is very complex sometimes things go all kind of ways.
There is an innate mental construct that functions deep within us as women, that causes us to feel like we “Have to be in a relationship”, and that we “Have to surrender sexually to a dominate male”. The chain of this cycle needs to be broken. There are plenty of men out here that are making perfectly good use of this fact, in an attempt to sleep with us, that’s just a fact! We have that same desire to give of ourselves sexually to recover, to connect and, to obtain some type of relationship. We as women have to turn this around if we really want to attract that loving and committed man into our life.
Desperation usually leads to isolation and/or, alienation. Desperation means you lost hope, at least for the meantime and we should never lose hope that we will find a loving and committed relationship and we should definitely, “Never give up on love.” Love comes to those who expect for it to come! We have a right to ask the Universe for love and we also have that same right to get it. We are taught that it’s not ok to ask for love and we don’t even think about doing something like that but, asking for love is only an indication that we’re ready for it and possess it within ourselves. Instead we suppress it and never acknowledge it, so guess what it never comes. I strongly recommend you get Deepak Chopra’s audio book or book “The Path to love” if you go to http://deepakchopra.wwwhubs.com/chopra6.htm you can read an online excerpt from this dynamically spiritual book that will lay the ground work for recovering the fragments of self. It will get you on the road to healing you, and finding true love.
I think another key, is to understand ourselves and what it is we really want in a mate. Women and men alike are confused on this matter we think we know but, when we get out there and interact we demonstrate, we don’t really know at all. We send mixed messages and, often times this un-decidedness is wrapped in the denial that we don’t have a right to ask for love or it's not necessary to ask for love. If you feel you don’t have a right to ask for love then you’ll never get it. So, this causes us to act in confusing ways because in one dimension we desire love and in the other we reject the need. I think a useful tool that can help us identify our “Love Language” and understand how we communicate love is a book by Gary Chapman, entitled the “The Five Love Languages” or, you can go to:
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/ and learn more about Gary’s work and learn the 5 languages. You take the free online assessment to find out your “Love Language”, by scrolling down to the bottom of the page and clicking take assessment tab. This will help you identify the way you communicate and receive love.
So here is a rundown of 5 keys to inviting love in your life
1. Give yourself the Space to Heal After a Break-up, Divorce or, Bad Love Relationship. Remember healing is a process and you'll need all the support and nurturing you can get. Take the time to love YOU. Surround yourself with positive and supportive people
Give yourself the time to come to terms with what happened and assess what it is you really need in a loving relationship. Write it down on paper. Identify with what makes you feel good about being in a relationship. By tapping into positive energy you can begin to heal all those negative feelings.
2. Take things slow
Don’t be in a rush and definitely don’t jump into anyone’s bed too quickly. Take your time to find out if the two of you have anything in common. By making sure that the two of you share common ground is a wonderful way to start a loving committed relationship. Give it a minimum of 3 months before you get intimate. Allow for the chase and most importantly have fun together. Take the time to really get to know each other.
3. Ask For Love
By asking the Universe for love shows that you are ready for it and possess it. Asking for love is one of the naturalist and best things to do in order to get it. Love is here to help us all heal and loving relationships are no different they have the same effect they always help you heal on some kind of level. When you ask for love you get it!
4. Clear up the Confusion
Women and men alike get confused about what it is the really are looking for in a loving relationship. A lot of times we think we really, really know what it is we are looking for in a partner and trying to figure it out in action can be rough. Don’t put another person or yourself through the drama. Take the time to understand and know what it is you desire in a mate and then be open to finding it. This is where I find Dr. Gary Chapman’s work useful it really helps you understand and know your personal love language and we all have one. Knowing what you need is key and we all have very different needs.
5. Learn From Past Mistakes
The most important thing that any of us can do is learn from our mistakes what I find is that we keep on making the same old relationship mistakes again and again. And they always keep coming back dressed in different disguises but, it’s always the same dynamic. By following your heart and not your mind you can’t go wrong. A lot of our inability to learn, grow and, move on has to do with our not operating in new paradigms. Our Models for love growing up did not give us good examples and in order to truly forgive others short comings it requires love in operation. We have a hard time forgiving self-let alone others. We have to redefine love, operate in new behavioral paradigms and learn from our mistakes in order to move forward.
It is real, real nice to exhale it’s nothing short of miraculous and if I can exhale so can all women and, I bet we have some men too for that matter. I’m doing things by a whole new set of standards. I follow my heart and look for those qualities I really desire in a man and I gravitate towards them irrespective of all other qualities. I’m breathing now and have never felt more alive.
Notes
1.The unfulfilled feeling felt by educated housewives, specifically referencing the 50s and 60s, wherein the housewife lost her identity and sense of self to a life centered around a husband, children, and home maintenance and little else. It was a trap felt by American women who were afraid to address the problem for fear of being perceived as "unfeminine" for not having orgasms mopping the kitchen floor
Contributions:
IsaiahJ & MS gave me a male perspective on the love and dating Scene
Links:
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_definition_of_feminine_mystique#ixzz1Dw5Daaoq to http://deepakchopra.wwwhubs.com/chopra6.htm
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/
Written by Dr. Mona Love January 7th 2011
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